since school, we have had 40 years to go through a number of amorous adventures including marriages and divorces, so I am wondering what your thoughts are now about love, romance, intimacy, etc.?
Because of our freedom to love at timberhill, it must have influenced our intimate relationships ever after?
Yet I still have to learn the same lessons over again. I keep forgetting it's not o.k. to be an asshole just because we're married. I have now been married 3 times and although my wife, tomoka, is 17 years younger than me, she thinks and feels so clearly about us as a couple that i constantly have to swallow my stupid delusional pride and listen.
Sometimes, the way i act, I have such a short-term outlook between us. we have vowed to take care of each other forever (and beyond), but sometimes i'm so petulant it's shameful. I'll forget what tomoka is going through and just see my own needs. I have a battle in my mind to fight my selfishness...
Dear rickysan,
ReplyDeleteIt's NEVER ok to be an ass to anyone, much less the one you love!! Hopefully, before it's too late, you'll learn that for any relationship to be successful, you must treat one another with respect and as equals. I hope in the last 2 yrs since you posted this, Tomoka has been successful in teaching you to be tolerant and gentle with others so you can move forward instead of constantly repeating the past. Learn these life lessons because karma is a real bitch. Think before you speak/act. Ask yourself, how will my action/reaction affect the one your with. As the saying goes..."Treat others as you want to be treated." Remember, you cannot take back words once they've left your lips. Live your life with integrity and kindness and always pay it forward...PEACE!